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- If God can kick Satan out of Heaven then I can kick toxic people out of my life. – If the great forgiver can hit the enemy with a “Bye Felecia” then we can cut ties with people too. I’ve heard never to burn bridges but some spaces were never meant to be inhabited by us and we aren’t wrong for NEVER wanting to go back.
- Define forgiveness for yourself. – Forgiveness and reconciliation don’t necessarily go hand in hand. You can forgive people and not continue a relationship. You can forgive people and work to salvage your relationship with them. Neither is BETTER and unless your safety is being compromised neither is inherently wrong.
- Don’t let PEOPLE tell you what your faith should look like. – I am a Christian, which means I have decided that the Bible is the final authority in my life. This also means that nobody can tell me I should be doing anything that isn’t in that Bible in order to be a good Christian. I live for Christ AND I listen to Cardi B! Who. Gone. Check. Me?!
- Spirituality will save you! – I love my Jesus and I will tell anyone who will listen about His goodness. But I know not everyone acknowledges Him as Lord & Savior. Either way, I find it impossible to function without my faith. This world is CRAZY, we have a cartoon orangutan for a President, and mumble rap is alive and well. It’s easy to go crazy in this world WITH a driving spiritual force; I don’t know how people do it without one. Get you some spirituality, I recommend Jesus but if you’re not here for Him get something!
- Love your body, even if you don’t like it. – Everyone has something on their frame they wish they could change. I’d much rather have a flat stomach, a big ole natural booty, and the dimples my Daddy didn’t give me. If you’ve seen me in real life you know I possess none of those things. BUT I love this figure, it sustains me, it has carried me through this life, it is the vessel that God uses. I love this body!
- Size doesn’t matter!
- First of all, YA NASTY! Second of all, I’m talking about clothes. NOBODY can see if your tag says 14 or 16. Buy and wear clothes that fit you well and make you look and feel good!
- It’s ok to have insecurities!
- Yes I know what I said. We live in a world that encourages insecurities so it stands to reason that we have some. Congratulations, you’re human! You don’t feel completely confident about every aspect of your life. THAT’S OK! Sometimes we’re unsure of ourselves. Those feelings aren’t the problem; how we respond to our insecurities is what creates issues. You can be insecure without being immature.
- Also, if you have insecurities I think you’re dope and can totally overcome them and be the confident badass you were meant to be.
- Some rules are made to be broken, but you have to learn them and play by them first.
- You can be both soul food and “eye candy”. – I want to be the sexiest woman alive to the man I am meant to love while simultaneously being the greatest blessing to his soul since Jesus went to cavalry. It’s ok to want to be both.
- GO. TO. THERAPY.
- We should go to therapy as frequently as we go to our dentists or physicians. Mental health matters!
- Just because something ended it doesn’t mean that it failed.
- Relationships, friendships, jobs etc. Everything isn’t meant for forever. It takes true growth to recognize when an encounter has reached the end of its season. I do not regret loving any man I’ve ever given my heart to. I loved them because at the time it’s what I wanted to do. Some ended more painfully than others but I gained something from it. There were no failures, just relationships that weren’t meant for forever.
- Learn how you love and if it’s a good fit for who you’re trying to give love to!
- I am an empath who wears her heart on her sleeve. I feel everything deeply and intensely. When I love people (friends, family, Baes who weren’t canceled) I love them with my whole heart, flaws and all. That kind of love isn’t for everybody. It scares some people away; it gets taken advantage of by people who wish to extort it. Not everyone is meant to be loved by me, and I ain’t meant to love everybody.
- Own each and every one of your emotions. – Emotions aren’t unhealthy and there are no negative emotions, only negative reactions.
- Don’t act like you don’t care when you do. Don’t pretend to care when you don’t. Life is too short to fake the funk.
- Anyone who says they don’t want love is lying.
- We want love without pain, we want love without strife, but there are no parts of us which do not want love at all.
- It’s unrealistic to desire to live a life without pain. It’s also completely human to not want to experience it.
- You can’t love someone into loving you. PERIOD. Because if they aren’t trying to love you, they don’t want to love you. No amount of love given will change that.
- There are some REALLY GOOD people who are REALLY BAD at relationships. Love is complex and some people struggle with it. Most people aren’t complete and total trash. EXCEPT DONALD TRUMP, HE’S THE LITERAL WORST!
- Having it all is relative! – Women joined the workforce and society thrust upon us this notion of having it all. Because it’s absurd to want a career and not want a family. However, my “it all” isn’t everyone’s “it all”. Some want husbands, children, and careers. Some just want a husband and a career. Some couldn’t care less about a career and only want a family. Having it all is having all of what you want, nothing more, nothing less.
- Don’t wait until you’re married to start enjoying your life. – Live life to the fullest NOW. Because marriage isn’t in the cards for all of us. Be happy now!
- If you want someone to change, shame is never the answer. – Some people do things they should be ashamed of but when it comes to getting people to change shame never precedes the desired result.
- I can be celibate and still have candid conversations about sex and sexuality. – I’m not a nun, I’m just abstaining. There’s a difference.
- I don’t have to voice an opinion on everything. – Sometimes you just have to decide this isn’t your battle to fight and shut up. It’s harder than it sounds.
- Mentoring Matters! – Get a mentor and become a mentor! Those two relationships will change your life!
- Getting older is beautiful and a blessing. Don’t shun aging.
- Grief sucks and none of us have it figured out. We’re all a bunch of clueless good-hearted people. – Losing my grandmother taught me that I’m surrounded by amazing people who hate to see me in pain but who also had no clue how to comfort me. I had no idea how to comfort myself.
- Being called ma’am is fun! – In a world that wishes to disrespect me at every turn it’s nice to have someone show respect for my sheer being.
- Order kids meals! – They are cheaper and often times surprisingly filling. Our portions are out of control in this country anyway!
- Poop at work if you have to! – Those bathrooms are there for a reason. Be kind to your digestive track and let movements happen as they need to. Get you some poo-pourri and handle yours!
- BE RADICAL! – Change seldom happens when people do more of the same. Shake things up!
CONTROVERSIAL CASS 
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